Best Way to Kill Ya Vibe
Brooke Giguere
Mannnnnnnnnn do I love to control things in my world. Or shall I say, I enjoy the illusion of control I think I have when I’m focusing on controlling everything outside of myself. I stress out. I stop thinking clearly and I definitely disconnect with my creativity. That really sucks for me and for my business. So I’ve been turning my focus onto the concept of acceptance in this new phase of my evolution. I’ve been really good at dropping the storyline and judgment the past decade but in all honesty, when the personal aspect of my life took a nosedive recently, it shook me. To my core. Still does right now. I’m feeling my assumptions hard right now. Why am I struggling with accepting this contrast? What kinda coach am I that I’m having trouble with this?
A lovely one. A having the full range of emotions one. And a human one. That’s what kind.
Sometimes I feel we can know so much that our own unfucking gets blocked because we know better so we tell ourselves to do what’s right without giving ourselves space to accept the unknown. As someone who is constantly learning and honing my skills for the pure pleasure of it, I feel like I know this stuff and I do but it’s also the small moments of grace I can give to myself when I move from discord and into acceptance.
One of the best terms I’ve ever learned is neutral observation. Picked up that gem back in 2011 while reading Working On Yourself Doesn’t Work by Ariel and Shya Kane Great book btw, if you haven’t heard of it. I highly recommend it. It’s one of those I reread and learn something new each time.
Anywho, I’ve been spending lots and lots of time with the idea of acceptance and therefore neutral observation. Last year’s personal heartache has bled into 2022 and as I focus on all the things falling apart I find myself attempting to find the ground beneath me. Practicing acceptance fully is all about observing what is and what was with whomever or whatever and putting the kibosh on the little voice inside my head saying “that’s good” or “ohhhh shit, that’s really bad”. We leave the story our minds create out of it. We drop the judgment. When acceptance is missing, we’re fighting against what is and in a way, we’re kinda trying to reshape what was. Trying to control the uncontrollable.
Fuck. Well I know how well I do when I try to control the uncontrollable. I feel the stress mounting. I’m tense and short tempered. My energy is shot. I’ve killed my vibe. But then I remind myself that acceptance doesn’t mean I’m giving up or being complacent. Quite the opposite. Acceptance opens me up to what is so I can move toward what will be.
Accepting I do know a lot and I’ll find my way back.
Accepting that right now I may be more unnerved than before.
Accepting that this is just what is and that it’s not good or bad. It just is.
Accepting allows me to stop draining my own energy. Which allows me to reconnect with myself and get back into my creative vibe. Conscious leaders focus on acceptance because they understand it frees up their vibe and energy. When our vibe is high and aligned, this equates to positive success. We regain our momentum toward all the amazing tangible outcomes for our business and our life. Next time you find yourself pushing against what is, lean back and acknowledge that. See if you can accept what is without the story or trying to change what is. Then watch your energy lighten and your connection to your solution solidify.